Many couple enjoy the pleasurable moments that comes with sex but there are others who feel that they have not experienced that “peek” feeling others talk about when it comes to intercourse. Needless to say that, there are many sexually active couples whose sparks have faded and now experience disappointments because they no longer have the passion and feelings that sexual pleasures used to have ignited in them.
A most common mistake that most couples commit that makes their sexual activities uninteresting is because they always expect sex every time to be that mind-blowing which is not a reality most of the time. When sex becomes such a routine and there is no room for twists, creative styles and techniques, it physically becomes boring and such a chore to do.
Plus, there is the fact that most people have such high expectations from their partners during sexual intercourse and when the passion and sensations they anticipate or expect are not met then the sexual act now creates feelings of disappointment and anxiety. This is most especially applicable for those who are trying sex for the first time or are trying it with a different partner and they make such unrealistic expectations. If you experienced wild sex the last time, you can’t expect it to be like this every time. Sex has its different cycles and tempos. There’s the slow sensual sex and on the extreme you have the wild quickies for the spur of the moment urges.
The whole sexual act is not only about the intercourse. You also have your foreplay, your oral sex and there is even manual stimulation with the use of the hand or the fingers. You can always work around these for some excitement and change in your usual sexual routine.
While there is nothing wrong to watch a pornographic video to help arouse your sexual desires, most couples make the mistake of using this instead of relying on each other to sexually arouse the other. You can always use your own moves and your own body to stimulate your partner instead of depending on x-rated videos. Not everything on porn is actually satisfying in bed so try not to follow everything on it. Remember that they are sexual fantasies and actors are portraying them for you.
Sex would be more exciting if partners try to explore themselves what gives pleasure to the other. Also, try not to compare your sexual experiences in the past with your current one. Everyone has his or her own unique style of feeling pleasure and of giving it. Be creative and play along.